Healing Sessions For Couples
Our closest relationships often bring up the most difficult feelings. That’s actually normal.
Working with me is an opportunity to heal the hard stuff and grow together.
Start by booking a free 20-minute call.
Do you experience any of these things in your relationship?
Feeling dysregulated or activated when you try to talk about some things
Getting stuck in repetitive arguments
Your past unhealed trauma coming up and making it hard to feel safe and close
Feeling hypervigilant and focused on your partner
Feeling shut down or defensive with your partner
Painful feelings about unresolved conflicts between the two of you
Sessions with me can help slow things down, bring clarity, and help you tune into each other differently.
I use Internal Family Systems informed coaching to help you understand what’s going on inside of you and your partner in a new way.
When we’re disconnected, we get stuck in patterns that make things worse.
As we work together, I’ll help you slow those patterns down so that you each understand the needs and fears that are driving each of you.
You’ll each be led through a process to find out what’s going on inside, and share it in a new way with your partner.
If unhealed trauma is coming up for one or both of you, these sessions may be a place to release and heal that pain if you are both on board for that work.
I’m going to slow you WAY down. THAT’S how we make progress quickly.
I imagine you want to make progress quickly. You urgently want to address the conflict and distress you’re experiencing. Also, you don’t want this process to take forever.
It’s counter-intuitive, but in my experience with couples and in my own life, I know that trying to push forward quickly with difficult conversations often keeps us stuck in patterns and makes the conflict worse.
I’ll lead you through a process to have a very different kind of conversation, and you’ll be learning how to have this different kind of conversation outside of our sessions.
I’m Annie Schuessler-Zam.
I help couples with all relationship structures to heal trauma and build closer relationships, and I’ve been at it for over 20 years.
I work with couples and individuals in San Francisco and online everywhere through Brainspotting and Internal Family Systems informed work.
I’m also trained in the Gottman Method for couples as well as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I created Rebel Therapist podcast where practitioners tell their own personal stories of healing.
I’m queer, neurodivergent, white, a parent, and have been with my partner since the turn of the century.
Here are some things that matter to me very much. To say these things “matter” to me is a ridiculous understatement, but I want to at least name them: anti-racism, anti-fascism, gender liberation and body liberation.
I was a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist for 20 years.
I’ve given up my license and no longer work within the medical model. I don’t use mental health diagnoses with my clients.
I’m a certified Brainspotting Practitioner and have training in Internal Family Systems from Internal Family Systems Counselling Association.
Rates for couples sessions:
$390 per 60-minute session
$488 per 75-minute session